Contrast Essay
“Oh you poor woman.” I’ve heard it time and time again. Ever since the birth of daughter number 2, and through the stages of girliness that have occurred with the raising of the little ladies. It seems as if the common opinion on the matter is …”ICK!.....girls suck! They’re SO whiney, and needy, and they scream really loud ALL the time, oh you poor wretch, I wouldn’t wish your fate on anyone! Just wait ‘til they become teenagers!” Well we’ve made it through and it really hasn’t been quite that bad. Through my decades of owning and operating a daycare, I’ve learned that there are just as many whiny, wimpy little boys out there as whiny, wimpy girls. I truly wanted a boy child of my own, but as fate would have it, my mission was to learn that there seem to be just as many differences between two daughters as one would expect between a daughter and a son. My girls are polar opposites in every way. Their physical attributes, their taste in clothing and their approach to life are commonly compared, and referred to as day and night.
The gene pool is so cool; it’s like a bag of scrabble tiles. Throw in all the separate pieces, shake it up and Voila! One unique kid. You’d think there would be some similarities between two unique kids if you’re using all the same tiles right? Wrong. Jade, my eldest, is a petite 5’ 2”, 110lbs soaking wet, brown hair, green eyes….cute, (which she hates to be referred to as, she would prefer beautiful.) Nia, my youngest daughter, is 5’ 8”, 145lbs, blonde hair, blue eyes…beautiful, (her face turns red and she disagrees vehemently every time anyone even suggests she’s even a little bit pretty.) Most people, upon meeting them, wouldn’t even believe that they’re sisters.
Jade spent the first 10 years of her life in dresses. She refused to wear pants…..they squeezed her legs….(it’s funny now). Imelda Marcos would be jealous of her shoe collection and there have always been accessories to match any outfit, as opposed to being able to count on one hand the amount of times Nia has had a dress on…..Her clothing usually consisted of some type of uniform, either softball or maybe a Gi, almost always filthy dirty, and she wouldn’t put on a pair of shoes until she started Kindergarten, and then we had to bribe her.
Jade will always stick her toe in, twirl it around a little bit, test the temperature, then decide if she should go swimming or not. Which bathing suit should she wear? What if the hair gets wet? What if the water is polluted? Has anyone tested the water lately? There may be high levels of mercury you know! It’s all about the research for her. It’s her approach to nearly every task she has encountered. Her sister on the other hand jumps in with both feet. Not a bit of concern over temperature, hair, or what she may or may not be wearing at the time. She got caught skinny-dipping at a Baptist summer camp….she was 12 and couldn’t imagine why everyone was so upset! She approaches every task as an adventure.
It has been an entertaining and intense ride through this parental phase. I find my head boggled by the express nature of it all. We’ve entered phase 2 now. I’m not sure what to call it yet, but I’m finding it similar in many ways to the birth-20 era….so far. It’s early in the game though, and I can vividly remember staring into the sweet face of my first born child, silent and sleeping soundly in my arms, and thinking, Awwwww…..how can something so perfect ever do anything upsetting to anyone? (Add SFX- hysterical laughter)